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Know Thy Worth!

Never try to change your man, if he thinks you’re worth changing for, he will come to that realization all by himself. If he never reaches that realization, then get out because you know your worth is so much more. Do not stay in a relationship that diminishes your value, your standards or the person you believe yourself to be.

Just because he has shown you some attention, showed you off to his friends, and maybe took you to a club does not mean he values you. People keep saying that in the world of today there is no need to court someone or pamper them, and that is just wrong. If a man is not ready to take you out to a romantic dinner every once in a while, treat you like the queen of his heart, put you first when it matters, then really it’s not worth it. Be with a man who will do those things for you; a man who believes that those things MATTER! If he thinks doing those things will make him “gay” then find yourself a REAL man.

If you yourself do not believe you deserve these things then there is no way he will give them to you. Be willing to step up your standards and show that you deserve them and if he isn’t willing to provide them, then stop wasting your time. You should never have to beg for his attention, or his time, and especially not his love. If he’s not willing to give these things to you freely then he is just playing with you until he finds the one he’s willing to do those things for.

Don’t stay in a relationship where you are merely a pawn, because you will get knocked over so much before you even come close to being a queen, and even then that’s a huge possibility that may never come true. And even if in the end it is possible, why would you put yourself through all that? Why don’t you wanna be the queen that stands by her king and makes him stronger? Truth is, if he hasn’t made you his queen in the beginning, if he hasn’t shown that you are worth the effort, then you probably never will be, and waiting for it to happen, for him to change and do that is really a waste of your time and efforts.

Be strong enough to believe that you are worth it. To love and be loved in the same amount is a rare gem, something many people no longer believe in; but the truth is, I believe that if you are willing to open up to the possibility that such a love can and does exist, then someday it will find its way to you. Just be brave enough to Hope!

 
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Posted by on November 6, 2016 in Me. You. US, Social Life, The Globe

 

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Chip Chip, Chop Away

Chip chip,
Chop away
Piece by piece
Watch them fall away
Down down,
Smooth like a feather
To the ground they go
As gravity pulls
Like a meteor they shoot straight down
With no obstacles on the way
Impact is fatal
Destruction is inevitable.
Chip chip,
Chop away
Piece by piece
The hole gets bigger by day
So little remains
Barely noticeable
The light almost gone.
Standing from afar
I watch as you chop away
Without mercy
I watch as you wrought your worst
Taking all you can get.
Chip chip,
Chop away
Like a piece of wood
You chop the pieces off
Until it is worn and useless
The remains to be discarded.
Chip Chip,
Chop away-

 
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Posted by on October 12, 2016 in Me. You. US, Poetry, Social Life, Tori's Poetry

 

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Love is Strength

Most people tend to think that love is weakness; that the moment you decide to open yourself to someone, then we are vulnerable. And in truth, that is what happens. We become vulnerable, easily hurt and broken, but it doesn’t mean it’s weakness.

Love is what makes us strong, it is what makes us want to fight to become a better us, to make a change and a difference, maybe to our own lives or to someone else’s. Love is the reason any of us live to see another day, it gives us purpose.

You watch a movie and see this scene where a girl miraculously kisses a guy who was about to die but suddenly lives and you all think “aah, what a soppy scene, that’s not real”, but in truth, that one kiss is what gave him the will to fight for life, to fight for more time with the one person who gives them a purpose to live. They “miraculously” come back to life, not because it’s just a movie,but because he had found a reason to stay alive – the movie just wants you believe that love is strong enough to make a miracle happen, to give life.

Love is the strongest emotion. Those who are lucky enough to not fear it get to know just how strong it can make them. Love pushes us to the limits we never knew we could go, it makes us believers of Hope, it makes us Fighters. Those unfortunate enough to think it’s weakness, can never truly understand how much more they could be.

How can something that makes you want to fight, to live, to conquer, to be remembered, to be seen, be considered as weakness? How can something that gives you purpose in life, a reason to be and exist, be weakness? Fear is weakness, lack of hope is weakness, being unable to see past the smaller picture is weakness – but Love will never be weakness.

If you can love, with all your heart and your being, you will be the strongest person alive. Love without fear and no barriers, and you will know what real strength really feels like.

 
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Posted by on June 10, 2016 in Faith, Me. You. US, The Globe

 

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Worth

Most people tend to weigh which is greater from a decision process. Is what you are losing greater than what you stand to gain?

In reality people ought to measure the worth of the loss compared to the gain. Sure you might be gaining more from a decision than what you stand to lose, but ask yourself this: is what you are gaining more important than what you lose? It’s not always about the numbers. You might save ten people and kill one in an accident, but what if the ten people you saved are serial killers and the one you killed was a humble mother at home? Which loss then is greater?

You might think that the more people you lose the harder it is to bare, but in truth you might lose just one person and feel like the world has ended and yet lose three people and still be ok.

Don’t give the small things the same worth as the things that truly matter. Know what is important in your life. Whose love is worth cherishing and which friends are worth fighting for. Just because you have 500 friends on fb or a thousand followers on any social media means that that’s how many will be there for you when you need help.

Never lose sight of what and who truly mattets in your life!

 
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Posted by on May 14, 2016 in Me. You. US, Social Life, The Globe

 

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Puppets

Do you ever feel like you’re a puppet in someone else’s life? That every move you make, every action you do, every word you say or do not say is somehow controlled by someone else? You carefully choose the words to keep to yourself and which one to say out loud, only because you’re afraid of what they might think or of hurting them?

You try so hard to pull away and be your own person, but in the end still find yourself doing things according to how they would feel, act, respond etc. Of course there is that time you get so angry and think “I don’t care if this hurts them or not, I’m gonna do as I please and say what I think”? And maybe for a couple of minutes you contemplate the idea of doing as you please and forget about how they would feel, and for a couple of minutes you feel like yourself again; yet that small precious moment suddenly disappears and you find yourself a puppet once again.

It’s a cruel thing to think that your life is not your own. To think that the one person who makes you happy is also the reason you can be completely and utterly devastated with your life. But the worst part is when you are so down because of them and they don’t give a damn about it, and yet you still totally depend on their change of mind/heart in order to make you better. This is the part where you realize you are a real puppet.

You pull away for a moment, only to realize that your master had merely slightly loosened the ropes, to make you believe that you could actually escape. How cruel is it that you only get a make-believe of your freedom? To be constantly reminded that you cannot escape, that no matter how much you pull and grapple, you’ll never be completely free.

And then you start asking yourself questions of how you ever let this happen. When did you become a puppet? When did you let someone else have so much control over your own life? How did you not see it and stop it?

But then again, all this is pointless now and you are left lifting arms, and making steps that are not your own, saying words that aren’t yours and hiding the things you really want to say.

Pull on puppet-master. Pull on your strings and make me sing and dance to your tune.

 
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Posted by on April 26, 2016 in Me. You. US, Social Life, The Globe

 

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Take a Breath

Close your eyes

Take a breath

Open your arms

Reach out to the world

You will find what

You have been looking for.

Don’t be afraid

Of the road ahead of you

There are obstacles

Many times you will fall

Just look up and you

will find me

I’ll be there to lift you up

Just reach out

And I’ll be there

Close your eyes

Take a breath

Don’t be afraid to call out

There’s a friend waiting for you

Just call out

Close your eyes

Take a breath.

 

 
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Posted by on March 16, 2016 in Poetry, Tori's Poetry

 

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The Power of Fear

The Power of Fear

Have you ever watched “Inside Out”? Most of you will probably say no, mostly because it’s a cartoon. But I’ve watched that movie at least five times and each time I’ve learned something different.

The first time I watched it, it was mostly just for laughs. I’d seen the trailer and felt that it would be a great movie to laugh at. The second time I watched it was because I wanted to relax my mind and forget about the difficulties of life.

But by the time I watched it a third time, I realized something more – The voices in the head. We all have these little voices in our head that always tells us what to do, but most of us ignore them. If you have seen “Inside Out” you would remember the part where Riley starts losing her Core Memories-her personality, the things that made her who she was. When “Joy” got sucked out of HQ, Riley was no longer happy, Anger, Disgust and Fear took over. From Anger she lashed out at her parents, with Fear she run away from home and out of Disgust she stopped caring about the things that mattered to her anymore.

Sometimes it’s not that we do not want to be happy, but there is that part of us that leaves us and other emotions take over us that overwhelm everything else we could be feeling. The biggest one of all is usually fear. We are so afraid of the outcome, of how it will affect us that we do not take any chances. The fear we have inside us becomes so overwhelming that we end up losing more by not doing

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Let the voices inside you be your guide. Sometimes they are not so bad if you listen carefully. It’s ok to be afraid, or get angry or annoyed, and certainly to be sad because it’s only through these that you find real Joy.

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Even so, there are certain things that we lose through life, we move, we change friends, meet new people, start over. This could be scary and sad. And you know what, it’s okay to be sad, it’s okay to cry a little, because sometimes once you’re able to cry it out, you’re able to let go and move on – sometimes, it’s okay to let Sadness take over before we can have Joy again.

The voices inside our head are very important to us. They are like a small guidebook inside us that tells us this is wrong, this is right, don’t go this way, don’t say this. But the moment we stop listening to these little voices is when our world begins to fall into pieces and we lose ourselves in the process.

 
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Posted by on March 2, 2016 in Me. You. US, Social Life, The Globe

 

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